For the haters

Time to vent out, all that is clogged up in my head. This is not exactly what I had in mind, especially when I am back to writing after my marriage. You know I hate certain people, yes like I really really do, especially people who treat me like shit.  There are people in this world for whom either we are so insignificant that they treat us like we don’t exist. Then there are people who don’t know how to behave or how to talk to and that leads to you feeling that you are being treated like shit. Then there are ones, mostly a family member who takes us for granted and decides everything for us. In my dictionary that is equivalent of being treated like shit. How do you do deal with all these negative people?. IGNORE some would say, but my mantra is give em a piece of their own medicine. Not that, it’s going to change much for you or miraculously you expect a change in their attitude. Well, if you are lucky enough and the person on the other end is dumb enough then a miracle is enough to heal your wound. 

I have dealt with all the first two category people the same way and the last is a little tricky to handle considering you are extremely close to that person. In such cases I let my feelings known. I let them know that I don’t want to be taken for a ride at their expense and I command respect. Respect as someone said is not always ABOUT GIVE AND TAKE. The second category of shit treaters have to be dealt with differently. See, they are doing it subconsciously. They don’t know how important your point is or how to behave on a complex scenario. They just tend to live in a bubble and fail to see beyond the thin film. Until, now whenever I am with such a person I create a bubble for myself and pretend the film that covers my bubble is much thicker than theirs.  Some, of em realize their folly and comes back around apologizing but then there are some who make a quick transition to the first category. What I should do is to let em realize in a subtle manner that their snubbing is hurtful or even insulting. Subtleness doesn’t come naturally to me you know.

Then there are scenarios where I am plagued by attitude problems, prejudices, negativity. I deal with it almost every freaking day of my life. The hate is just temporary you see, it vanishes off the moment you treat me well. I am in good terms with almost all my ex-haters. This itself proves that I am not a bad person after all.

The whole treating like shit problem arise cause of hierarchies, mostly when you tend to put yourself above another person. The hierarchy can be base on any factor: Education, Beauty, Power, Money, Status and blah blah blah. Oh I did fail to mention another important factor EGO!!!!. See, you may be on the hierarchy pinnacle for any of the above factor, but the another  person may topple you on any other and then your EGO starts to itch and you start the treating like shit game for the very factor you are above that person….Don’t get it???well, you need to have deep thinking capability and lot of time to waste in your hands to understand the deep philosophy I have laid out here.

 Come to think about it, I am an emotional thinker. I am driven by emotions rather than logic. And most of my argument seems one sided only driven by, illogical reasoning. I can give you 100 valid points but only if you stand in my shoes. I don’t need sympathy just a pair of ears to listen.